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Even if two different pronouns are listed for myself or one of my headmates, it's neither necessary nor preferred to alternate between them. I know and respect that some people with multiple pronouns prefer that, but we do not. Think of it more like a preference order. Pick whichever of the two you are more comfortable using for us and stick to that one, bearing in mind there is a slight preference for the first of the two listed. We won't take offense if you vary between them in the course of one conversation, but it will confuse us and may warrant clarification.

For example, since my pronouns are they/she, that means I prefer they/them but am also fine with she/her. It doesn't mean I'm asking you to use both at once.

My headmates and I are also always okay with they/them even if it's not listed. For example, one of my introjects, Lorna, uses she/it. This means she/her would be her first choice and it/its would be her second choice, but they/them is still an acceptable third choice. We would strongly prefer that you not use, say, he/him for her, but they/them is still fine.

We only list they/them explicitly when it's one of the first two choices; as a third choice, it's implied. So, my pronouns are just they/she, Singer's pronouns are just she/they, and Daisy's pronouns are just he/they, but Lorna's pronouns being listed as she/it means they are in effect really she/it/they. Even if only one pronoun is listed, they/them is still implied, but with less priority; for example, Lucy's pronouns are she/her, but even then, they should really be read as she/her/they, distinguished from simply she/they in that Lucy only prefers they/them as much as one might a third choice even though it is technically second.

Much in the same vein to how we feel about alternating between different preferred pronouns within the same conversation, we also find neopronouns confusing. Please don't use those for us. I know and respect that some people prefer neopronouns for themselves, but we do not. For example, even though I'm trans, I don't prefer, say, xe/xir.

If you're a transphobe and think it's funny to misgender people on purpose, I'm afraid I won't provide much amusement. I don't take offense when people misgender me. It just confuses me. If you intentionally use the wrong pronouns for me, you will at worst mildly irritate me, and most probably not even that.

If you want to get under my skin, you'll have to try harder. Which I wouldn't suggest, because having to actually put effort into hurting someone is honestly just pathetic. If you put in the work and successfully hurt me emotionally, then once I've recovered, I'm just going to laugh at you for having such an empty, pointless life that that was the only way you could get your rocks off.

Language is meaningless in the end. If I were going to kill myself, I would have done it the first time I attempted. Therefore, no matter what you think you can do to me with mere words, I can promise you you're wrong. I've endured atrocious actions from other people and I'm still here. If you really want to hurt me, the only approach I can suggest is a lethal weapon, such as a gun, knife, or explosive. Anything less will be but a flesh wound.

Don't think you can get away with just going in unarmed, either. I may not be strong, but I'm trained. Unless you're also trained, if we fight hand-to-hand, I'm going to win. I won't have the conceit to say I'm trained well or anything, but if you're a chud, chances are decent you have no combat training at all, and I'm at least good enough that none at all isn't going to cut it.

This isn't a threat, to be clear. Again, I don't really give that much of a shit about misgendering. I'm just saying, because of that, if you want to pick a fight with me, you'll have to do it physically, and if you're willing to go there, you'd better know what you're getting yourself into.